Unhelpful behaviours between separated parents
A) Provoking your child's other parent
If you add to the other parent's stress or anxiety, it can have a direct impact on your child. A parent feeling overwhelmed will struggle to meet their child's needs.Try instead to put your decisions through 'The Child Test'. Ask yourself; 'How might this affect my child?'
B) Competing to be the favourite parent
Most children just want their parents' time and attention. Competing with your child's other parent can pull focus away from doing what's best for your child.Try instead to focus on what your child needs from you. Ask yourself; 'Am I doing this for my child's best interest? Or for another reason?'
C) Badmouthing your child's other parent
When one parent badmouths the other, your child can feel forced to choose sides. As a result they may avoid telling you about problems to do with their other parent.Try instead to focus on finding solutions to the problem. If you really need to vent, call someone you trust. Just make sure your child does not overhear.
D) Not letting your child talk about the other parent
It can be painful to hear your child talk about their other parent. But if children think what they're saying is upsetting you, they will start to censor themselves around you.Try instead to remember that your child still loves their other parent. Try to show interest and say something positive. And smile, even if you're not feeling it!
Child roles between separated parents
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